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What Do You Think People Need to Know?

June 21, 2007 | By:

Our office gets lots of phone calls each day from clients and prospective clients who have questions – questions about what to do first, what to do now, what they should have done, and what their best next step would be.  A big part of our practice involves giving advice to prospective parents, egg donors and surrogates on what exactly is involved in the path to family building they are undertaking. And that doesn’t even address the thousands of questions people have about adoption!

So….we’ve decided to make some of the answers to our most frequently asked questions available in an easy to read, readily available format.  We will be making fact sheets of some of those frequently asked questions (“FAQ sheets”), and including our answers, in the hopes that we can share the knowledge and expertise that makes our office so effective in helping to build families through assisted reproduction technologies.

Here’s where you come in – what do you want to know?  What are your questions?  Are you a prospective parent wanting to know exactly what the process of an egg donation cycle entails?  Are you a donor with questions about what is expected from you by intended parents?  Are you someone interested in becoming a gestational carrier, but don’t know how to begin the process?  Are you thinking about adoption but don’t know where to start?  Are you a birth parent and don’t know what’s involved in placing a baby for adoption?

What would you like to know?  What do you think people need to know if you’ve been through the process (and learned valuable lessons that can help others)?

What aspect of assisted reproduction or adoption are you confused about, or don’t know enough about and want to learn more?  We will try to incorporate your questions into our series of FAQ sheets.

Feel free to post here anonymously, or you can email your questions (confidentially) to info@storklawyer.com

Thanks for your help!  We look forward getting your questions!

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I went AWOL

April 9, 2007 | By:

So sorry!  I have been under the weather with walking pneumonia and trying to keep the office going (thank god for Danielle) and then we had my daughter’s first birthday and easter.  YIKES!

I spent today getting the office back to a somewhat organized state.  There was paper all over the place and I couldn’t take it anymore.  I could find important files, but I lists of to-do lists of to-do lists and it was driving me nuts.  So now everything is anally-compulsively filed and I feel much better.  next on the agenda is fung shuing the office!

I did start the office’s baby wall.  Although we’ve helped many people build their families, only a few clients have been generous enough to send pictures (keep ’em coming) or baby announcements and so today I starte to tape them to the outside of the closet door.  It is the coolest thing ever!  If ever I have a down moment, all I need to do is look at that door and know that I am doing exactly what I was put here on earth to do (that and be a mom!).

So, I see I have some comments to respond to . . . now that I am feeling better and more organized I think I can get this blogging thing under my belt.

Also, I am in the process of retaining a designer to make the look and feel of this blog more fun.  It really is beyond my capabilities to make this an attractive and not just information place to talk and think about all topics related to family building so while I focus on getting information out there, someone else will be responsible for fung shuing (sp?) this blog!

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Where do I begin?

March 23, 2007 | By:

I had a horrendous week.  Really probably one of the most stressful and awful weeks I’ve had since I started this practice and probably one of the top three worst professional weeks I’ve had since I started practicing law in 1993.  It started with the usual stuff, clients who needed things yesterday, agencies with requests for any number of things which were completely normal and manageable but everyone seemed to want their requests handled that second and everyone seemed to have multiple requests that needed to be handled, Judges who wanted things the way they wanted them because they had that power never mind the stress and emotional turmoil they were causing my clients (gee, Ms. Falker let’s have your clients jump through another four hoops before we finalize this adoption even though everything they’ve done so far has been perfectly perfect), and then there was some not-so-nice stuff that is resolved but required me to dig deep and bite my tongue and assert myself at the same time (not an easy thing to do) and ultimately resulted in the not-so-amicable parting of partners (it’s for the best but why does this stuff always get so ugly?).  (I know I am being vague.  part of that is because there are things I can’t talk about because I am bound by privilege and part of it is because I just don’t want to piss anyone else off this week by venting in a public forum (I promised people I wouldn’t permit anyone to rant or vent or flame on this blog).)

It didn’t help that it was freezing and snowy all week. Spring, yeah right!  I didn’t even want to leave the office to get lunch because it was so nasty out and wound up eating junk food, sucking back extra Starbucks, or not eating at all because I didn’t have time.

The weird thing is, in all of the stress there seemed to be one theme.  Everyone was starting over.  And it was hard for everyone of us involved in whomever’s drama was unfolding at that moment; there was always too much too do and not enough time and emotions were running unbelievably high (does anyone know if Mercury was retrograde this week? There has to be some weird astrological explanation for the unusual stress and anxiety and pace this week dumped on me!!).  But now that it’s all over and I am sitting here trying to recover and piece it all together, I am also realizing that it was really cool.  It was a week of new beginnings and new challenges.  Putting aside the lack of sleep (for once I can’t blame this on my kids) from stress . . . everyone with whom I worked was entering a new phase in their journey to parenthood (or as the case may be, helping someone else become a parent) and there was excitement and uber excitement at every turn.   

More than one client was starting over with a new agency after having been "burned" at/by their old agency.  They called needing any number of things (all urgent of course) but they were excited about the promise presented by their new agency.  Many of the clients had not yet selected their egg donor or gestational carrier and wanted to talk about what goes into picking the right person for the job.  They also wanted to talk about how different it was working with their new agency or with an agency after pursuing their path to parenthood independently.  They were excited.  New chances at parenthood, new opportunity.

Adoptions were moving closer to finalization — albeit with bumps in the road that we needed to sort out.  Babies were getting ready to be born and/or go home with their new mom and dad.  People were nervous and tense but it was also very exciting (although I do wish one judge’s chambers had called me back on one question we had this week so that my clients weren’t left hanging all weekend *sigh*).

And then there were people parting ways and moving on without each other.  The change is good for them, and much needed, but came with accusations and ugliness.

And then there was my life.  Someone suggested to me that I buy an egg donation agency.  In a normal week, I would have dismissed it out of hand but this week was so bizarre that I am actually considering it.  Another new opportunity and excitement . . . even if I don’t pursue this opportunity it’s put me in a more expansive state of mind.  Just as my clients are preparing to move into major new phases of their lives so am I. 

Yeah it was a weird stressful sucky week.  But despite the snow outside my office window, maybe Spring and the promise of new beginnings it brings is really here after all.  ?????

 

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